Types of Prayer: Lamentation
You may be as surprised to learn this kind of prayer saturates large portions of the Scriptures. It’s more than forty per cent of Psalms; the central theme of the book of Lamentations; and is modeled for us by Jesus when he cries out from the cross, “My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?”
This form of prayer is called lament: the honest expression of our sorrows to God. And tragically, lament has been lost from the vocabulary of many followers of Jesus today.
How to pray a prayer of lament
1. Turn to God
The first feature of lament is an address to God. The direction of the prayer matters here; it’s not grumbling to others—it’s intentionally coming before God in prayer. Anyone can cry, grumble and complain—but only the righteous offer their cries, grumbles and complaints as prayers to the Living God. The difference between the two is the direction. Notice how this is expressed in the opening verses of these three psalms;
“How long, LORD?” (Psalm 13:1)
“My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” (Psalm 22:1)
“LORD, you are the God who saves me; day and night I cry out to you.” (Psalm 88:1)
Psalm 13 and 22 begin by bringing a question before God, Psalm 88 with an acknowledgement of the salvation God offers. But did you catch the common thread?
They all turn to God first.
2. Cry Out Your Complaint
After turning to God, each of these psalms cries out with a complaint—a defining characteristic of lament. This involves naming the problem being seen or experienced and expressing it vividly before God. That might sound untrusting, perhaps even ungodly. But this is far from unbelief or ungodliness—this is a righteous response to the wrongfulness of life’s circumstances. It’s a refusal to wish away suffering, stiffen our upper lip or “be strong” in the face of sin and suffering.
We see this in Psalm 13 when David cries out to God when he seems absent in his life:
How long will you hide your face from me? How long must I wrestle with my thoughts and day after day have sorrow in my heart? (Psalm 13:1-2).
Again, David feels distance from God in Psalm 22 and questions why he is forsaken (Ps 22:1-2)—words which Jesus himself takes up as his own on the cross (Mt 27:46). In Psalm 88, the paslmist expresses a sense of grief that is evidently unbearable:
You have put me in the lowest pit, in the darkest depths … my eyes are dim with grief. (Ps 88:6-9).
Crying out our complaints with heart-wrenching honesty is not only okay—but godly.
Psalms of lament show us that crying out our complaints with heart-wrenching honesty is not only okay—but godly. Even in the depths of the pit, the loss of a loved one, or a moment of despair—God anticipates and hears each of our cries.
3. Appeal for God to Hear and Respond
Laments don’t end with complaints. Their third movement is an appeal for God to hear and respond.
The grounds for this appeal is God’s word; his character and his promises. Even in the darkness of Psalm 88, the psalmist appeals to a God who hears—“May my prayer come before you; turn your ear to my cry” (Ps 88:2).
David similarly appeals to God: “Look on me and answer, Lord my God” (Ps 13:3). As we lament, we not only express our difficulties to God, but we call upon him to hear us in our moment of need—knowing that he alone is our source of comfort, hope and help.
As people living after Jesus’ death and resurrection, our prayers of lament are now anchored in what we believe and know to be true about the character and promises of God revealed in Christ. We can know of God’s faithfulness to save us and meet us in the depths of our cries even more than the psalmists.
4. Confess Your Trust
Finally, a confession of trust in God acknowledges that, even if the answer to our prayer is unknown, God is trustworthy, whatever the circumstances. I say ‘often’ because of the three lament psalms, only two make it this far. David declares, “I will declare your name to my people” (Ps 22:22) and “I trust in your unfailing love” (Ps 13:5) as he brings his psalms to a close, even when an immediate resolution is not found. And yet Psalm 88 doesn’t conclude this way. While the psalmist cannot bring himself to declare praise as the climax of his song, he has already acknowledged “the God who saves” (v1).
As I look back, a prayer that took its lead from lament was what I craved as I grieved my sister’s death. I needed a form of prayer that would help me turn to God, honestly name my suffering while appealing for God to hear and respond with comfort and help, and counsel me to confess my trust in God too. And perhaps you do as well.
May the psalms of lament be a guide for your prayers in the difficult moments you face.
"I want to know God's thoughts, the rest are details." Einstein
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